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She rides horses and thinks that means she super in shape because she underweight for her height and told me most horse riding people are and most have eating disorders (not a knock at any horse people, this is all context for the type of human she is).Anyway, apparently her fianc more or less told her she needed to work out and wanted her to get a booty and so she joined Planet Fitness like a week canada goose outlet canada ago and now messages me on our work chat literally every day to talk to me about her workout and how «he» (she refers to her SO as he exclusively and refuses to call him by name) made her do x y z or whatever and canada goose jacket outlet sale how she SO SORE (uh yeah you went from never working out to working out every single day.) and I say encouraging stuff like «keep it canada goose outlet 2015 up and the soreness will start to fade» or «you got this! rest days are always fine if you feel like you pushing yourself too hard» or «good job! I know that soreness feeling, too, but it gets better!» and she ALWAYS has to come back with some smartass comment about how «well my legs are already pretty toned from riding but I did smith machine squats anyway» or «I already look canada goose outlet online store better than half the people in there anyway» and I just stop responding because it makes me super uncomfortable and I been through her bullshit enough to know that no matter what I say, it go in one ear and out the other. Her negativity has been one of the single causes that I actively searching for a new job canada goose shop uk (not just her comments directed at/about me, but negative attitude in general) and it just so frustrating! I trying to be supportive and encouraging because I absolutely always advocate for anyone to exercise and enjoy it, but damn girl you don have to put me and everyone else around you down in the process! It makes it really difficult to want to support you. Okay rant over, sorry!Thanks for the advice. I definitely try to limit conversations to work only topics and ignore when she sends 5 6 back to back that aren work related. The balance is a struggle, but I in a much better place mentally now than I was when this all first started a year and a half ago. I was the one with self esteem issues because I let her self esteem issues affect me, and now I find it to be annoying rather than a canada goose outlet in vancouver reflection of myself (thank god for that healthy mentality change!). All of you guys are spot on with limited responses and not engaging. Thanks for the kind words and encouragement!Wow, I sorry. She AND that canada goose outlet online uk situation sound awful.Good on you for trying to be the bigger person and be supportive despite everything. The fact she is talking about horse riders acting like an eating disorder is desirable or something to equate with fitness, or that being underweight means you «in shape» are both major red flags.I known people like this, Cheap canada goose and it frustrating. My boyfriend cousin comments on any fitness posts I ever had (which are limited, I try to keep that stuff on a separate instagram) to talk about how canada goose outlet montreal she maintains a low weight despite eating junk/hates exercise. Those things are both fine, but she always referencing that she underweight and then seems to imply me being interested in fitness apart from weight (nutrition, exercising) is fake or canada goose outlet michigan silly canada goose outlet london somehow.It especially got to be tough now https://www.picframer.ca that she IS trying some of the things you in to, which she previously disparaged, and is making such a big ol deal about it. My coworker who I otherwise love did the same thing and even canada goose uk site that got on my nerves (she was like «I never work out» and her eyes glazed over when I told her I squatted barbell bodyweight one day . . . Then a week later she did literal BODY WEIGHT (like, not weighted) squats and would not stop complaining about how sore she was.)I hope you find a better job, it sounds like you need a new fit. I definitely stepped back in my responses and not let her comments get me, because, after all, it pretty obvious this is more about her self esteem issues than canada goose outlet price anything about me (OT, but damn I never thought I be at a place where I actually thinking like that, this is a pretty big revelation for me). If someone irritates me like that, I don’t chat with them, pretty canada goose outlet official much just keep it professional.Edit: I see you mentioned needing to talk with her through chat about work stuff. Just keep it like that. Once she starts talking about anything else, just stop responding. It started as a silly thing between me and a Dr I worked with (foxnsocks, did you do your 50 squats this morning? Gotta get the blood pumping!) Also it was kind of canada goose jacket outlet toronto shameful this 50 year old man was more fit than me. I down about 30ishlbs since then, canada goose victoria parka outlet played around with a canada goose jacket outlet uk couple programs until I found TLS. I just started phase 3. I also started the dreaded cardio which I never thought I actually enjoy. My photos now compared to where I started are pretty great I think. I still have a ways to canada goose outlet eu go, but it a marathon not a sprint.Also, this subreddit has been a big motivator. It nice to come on here even on shitty days and read posts from others canada goose outlet online and see all the struggles and successes. This is a pretty rad group of women!this has been my world for two months. Get ready, it’s going to be a rough ride :/It’s rough canada goose outlet florida on anyone but I think some men find it extra hard to lose their career identity, financial independence, social status. relying on a partner affects their self esteem to canada goose outlet trillium parka black a huge degreeThe job search is / can be brutal. Makes people question their value in a fundamental way. Rejection (and lack of response) is HARD to take, as is the lack of control involvedPrepare for depression, anxiety, and possibly no sex for a whileIt would be GOOD if your partner could do his best to draw a line under the day once he’s done what he can, and try to make space for positive experiences (eg past a certain time). It would be GOOD if he actively did stuff to destress. He probably won’t feel able to let things go, though.Just be nice to him. Take his lead on supporting things that he says feel good. Help him a little, but don’t sign up to be his job coach let someone else do that (fastest way to be resented). Don’t criticize what he’s doing search wise unless canada goose outlet 80 off he’s putting no effort in or is way off. (Prepare for him to decide he wants to make a career switch. now is not the time for that, that ought to be planned when someone’s employed. Give that idea space if it happens but steer him back to practicality).Help spread the word/network if he’s cool with thatBasically though, things will be rough for him (and you) until he finds work. For you to stay ok, keep doing things for yourself (and encourage him to do the same).

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